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PANIC, POSITIVE ANSWERS NEEDED IN CRISIS!



The Birth of PANIC


 
Why the name PANIC?   Egors personal story:

 
For me Child Youth and Family was something I respected. I believed in what they did, what they stood for and could only see the good they did.
 
As a foster mother for many years I admired how they would bring in these broken, damaged children and watch them change into confident wonderful kids. In my delusion I put it down to the social workers hard work. It took many years for me to see that, hold on, I was the one parenting them.

Id done years of training. Not just fosterparent training but anything and everything offered in the communities I lived in or personal study I took on from books and on line studies. These skills grew and as time went on so did my awakening to what was really going on with the department. Here I was with many now adult foster children who had turned out to be amazing adults and great parents. Many played a large part in my life long after they left my care. So what changed everything...
 
2004.... The beginning of the end......... four years, a trip into darkness.....
 
It wasn't easy for me, the added stress that a case we got started to have a dreadful effect on my marriage when the parent of two of the children we had began an all out attack on us, our business and everything in our life. Her only want was the return of her children so we became the target.
 
CYFs did nothing to help and even the local police who were also very concerned over what was happening to us were not being listened to by the local office. Over time my husbands business had to shut. Far to many customers were being abused or turned off when a group would approach them and tell them we were child stealers or abuses.
This was just the mild end of it the real damage done to us was when the mother found a group on line and the support person for that group took her case and ran with it.
 
He had no want or desire to know the truth, went with the parents side of things. He couldn't go the department but he could easily attack the caregivers. This is when our real nightmare began.. From that moment we stepped into a darkness that to this day has not completely healed.
 
This man was a support person for PANIC (The Negative Intervention Of Cyfs) Now this is not say all the support people back then were bad but one had a bigger agenda and ran with it.
 
Around this same time in my work as a manager Id had to pull up some staff for stealing from the business.. Well and I think you can get what happened next the payment on us was the misuse of the 0508 FAMILY number. The other thing that happened, one of my staff became a member of the fostercare association. Now I knew this person could be colourful with the truth and gave the FCA a heads up but did say they were very good at paperwork. My mistake! The FCA made her part of the committee and before I knew it another batch of colourful lies were sent directly to CYF, one even stating we had brought our young son. Yes that's right, we had paid for a baby! Good lord as if we would!
 
Another thing that happened around the same time was when one of the foster children who was angry at me for two things 1. Grounding her for stealing and the other was not agreeing to a big massive pool party. The child had a history of false allegations on pretty much everyone so this was nothing new but the new social worker who had taken over the case and from that point completely stuffed it up decided to treat us as the bad guys.
 
The attacks on us grew, and we were now having problems at the new jobs we had managed to get to try and save our home and life. The parent began turning up and causing trouble.. However after four years of this we at last got a restraining order. Which the parent broke within days! But to top it all off around this time we were served with papers from the support person from PANIC who had made an independent case of perjury against us over our prev family court statements. So there we were taking the stand along side rapists and other criminals while the judge looked at the man doing it to us trying to get him to wake up and smell the roses. We had been telling the truth.. Even the judge could see it but this man would not back off. Yes in the end he lost but the stress and on top of everything else took its toll on both of us. Our new jobs gone we were now almost broke. Our home with alterations only partly finished could no longer be finished because put simply the money was gone. Our dreams, our hopes and most importantly our reputation was ripped a part.
 
All right this may not seem to bad but what happened next set it all into place. The mother got her file... Well not just hers but OURS and in it were these allegations. Why did this happen, we asked ourselves and then the cold hard truth hit us. We had become the departments sacrificial lambs. When we started to stand up and say come on department you need to help us and at the same time the father of the children was saying he was going to take the department to court, they sent out stuff so even the father who had supported us having the children would turn his support away. The information released looked so real, heck even I would have believed it. What wasn't released was the fact it simply was not true!
 
Reports regarding access with the parent were even shown as positive. HOLD ON WHAT ABOUT ALL THE CONCERNS EVEN THE SOCIAL WORKERS AND THE SUPERVISORS HAD RAISED.... All of a sudden the only reports spoken about were the positive ones. The negatives ones were made to look like they had only come from us.. Twisted and turned around.. We knew then we were alone.
 
So the heartbreaking call had to be made. We could no longer protect the children. As our jobs were now ending. The stress had caused me to collapse and rushed to hospital just days after having our new baby placed into our arms, there was only one thing to do... Phone the social worker and tell her that we could no longer keep the children. The two most beautiful, fantastic kids.. The light of my life. Yes they had problems but oh my goodness not a day went by that they didn't make me smile and that day I was making the call that would break my heart forever. "Please come and get them, we can't take it any more" and with that the social worker said she would pick them up from school and tell them for me because in her words she understood how heartbreaking it was for us. She would bring them right to us so we could then say goodbye.
 
What did we find out later.... That stupid stupid social worker who had made so many mistakes made yet another one, she wrote on her computer these two words. UP LIFTED! Funny enough this to was released to the parent!
 
So the case now thrown out of court, and costs now awarded what happened next. The case ended up on the Internet. Names, everything. How did we find out... When friends started contacting us! This took a lot of work to have removed but the damage was done. PANIC had kicked us down yet another step.
 
From here I will jump forward in time......
 
We took what happened to us to the panel and won. In their words WE WERE VERY GOOD CAREGIVERS WHO WERE TREATED VERY BADLY BY THE DEPARTMENT. Our side of the story till now has not been completely heard. Had PANIC support contacted us to get our side.. Never. Years later did we ever hear the words sorry.. No.

That PANIC is now gone.
 
In regards to these two beautiful children.. One is stuck in boarding school now. Beautiful, bright and still with the most wonderful smile, often makes contact and we have the odd visit. The other child is now in the care of the father. As for this wonderful mother who the PANIC supporter supported, well from what I have heard is still set on getting to marry a convicted child sex offender. Oh but get this... She does get unsupervised overnight access with her kids.. And they take her word she will not allow contact with the ped.. Hmmmm one can only hope that for once the children do come first but if someone can not see how bad even wanting to marry a man like that is then how much thought to her children will she really give. I pray that one day she wakes and understands what she has done can never be forgiven.
 
As for the PANIC supporter.. He is standing up as an MP......... A man who ripped apart a good family may end up in the position to control them. I will leave you all to think about that.
 
Soooooooooooo Your asking now how did I come about being a part of PANIC... Well first off I wanted to be a part of helping others. Now that I had seen the lies and very poor social work practice that really goes on I wanted to be able to give a balanced view of both the good and the bad.. Yes Id seen both, so it was important that both sides be heard. I also wanted to make sure that no one support person would go gunning for caregivers or even social workers home life, why, because just because you think something maybe so, or read a legal document saying it is so.. It does not mean it is.
 
When we heard that the old PANIC closed down a few of us who saw the importance that good support was needed and one that would feed the positive. For me I wanted to do all I could to heal so that the word PANIC would no longer bring me to tears or make me relive the nightmares Id had for many years. So with the help of a wonderful lady the name PANIC was agreed but with these words. POSITIVE ANSWERS NEEDED IN CRISIS. The team grew and with it the knowledge that the importance was to work as a team. Not one support person but a collective. This way we could monitor each other but most importantly give our clients a collection of advice from a number of different views. In many ways the lesson that came from the old PANIC both good and bad would form the foundation for far better support work into the future.
 
There is also the reason a NAME was picked that would go on long after we have passed. This is not about us.. Nor our individual stories, PANIC is there for everyone and as others move and learn from their own stories they to can pay it forward by helping others. Yes everyone has a skill and something to offer.
 
The other thing that is maybe a little different is that PANIC supports its clients getting advice etc from many other groups at the same time. Taking the best from each they have a better chance at coming out the other side. After all your cases are different and something, one thing, could be the magic key that opens the door. It is the positive results PANIC is happy with, not how you got there.
 
The department... Well on the negative side.. I still see everyday our unfinished dreams, I worry that time will run out before we get enough to complete them. I worry now about the future as I am older and still have young children to raise. Will they be left with nothing more than these broken dreams.
 
However on a positive I have met some wonderful social workers over more than twenty years. Some who I have seen work wonders with both caregivers, parents and families. To you I say thank you it is because of you I still believe there is some good work being done. This is another reason why for me I see the real importance that each case is looked at, that we work in the best interest of the child and to do so means that we just may from time to time have to remind you of that.
 
Child abuse is out there... This point can never be forgotten. But in its shadows are the many good families who have had everything ripped away from them because of lies and poor social work... It is with this I end my story with these words. ....
 
Be you Social worker, parent, extended family, caregivers or just a friend... In the eyes of those you judge may be the same tears, love for family and hurts from past that are reflected in your own. Respect the possibility that even if all things are pointing in one way that someone else may have twisted around the sign.

PANIC, POSITIVE ANSWERS NEEDED IN CRISIS!





OPEN LETTER TO THE MEDIA, MINISTRY AND OTHER ORGANISATIONS.

 

There are SOME groups and organisations that have an unexplained view to discredit PANIC and/or its team. PANIC’s view is that there is a need for a number of different groups, the need for families to find support is far greater than any one group can handle. Each group offers a different way of support or push for change. The PANIC team are individuals who are open to support any other organisation or group, HOWEVER, as PANIC team members, when handling cases work within the guidelines of work practice set out under PANIC. This may not be the level of professionalism one or two other groups aspire to but it is what we follow.

IF YOU HAVE ANY QUESTIONS, OR HEAR, OR SEE ISSUES SURROUNDING CLAIMS ABOUT OUR SITE PLEASE USE THE CONTACT US AND SPEAK TO US. (A number of such claims are currently being watched and noted. Our legal advisors are aware and future action maybe taken which will also include informing the ministry of such)

The OLD PANIC site, 2008; There appears to be some who still continue to associate the old PANIC (Parents Against the Negative Intervention of CYFS) with the new PANIC. It is important for us to inform those still confused that this is not who we are.  Lessons were learnt, both positive and negative from the old site, although many of the team were not support members of the old site much information was passed on.  Information both positive and negative and from that our organisation took shape. PANIC also learned many lessons from other sites such as CYFSTALK, again, using the examples that would then open the door for a far more professional team.

PANIC follows the belief that there is an importance for a push for the department and its social workers follow their code of conduct to the letter and that they are made accountable when things go wrong. It also follows the belief that families in crisis need support; sometimes this comes from being able to have someone willing to listen and go over their case.  Team members have learned that sometimes part of the important role can be pointing out to families that there is a need for change and thus may support the recommendations of the Department. In other cases clear mistakes or bully tactics by its social workers (even sadly, down right lies) are identified and here PANIC's team work to give the families information and if need be step in to help sort out the mess. Sometimes this is not always possible because by the time PANIC was informed the case has moved on to permanency so at this point PANIC works to ensure access etc is the best it can be. In some cases where there is a clear indication a greater step needs to be taken we will support the family to take the matter back to court.

To Social Workers for the Ministry reading this, please understand our role is to hear both sides, sometimes this may mean taking a strong stand to ensure your hearing what the family members are saying.  For you, their case may be one of many and at times, understandably voices can get lost, we help them be heard. Sometimes this is also to advocate for the child/ren. Like you, we are child focused and want to see the end of child abuse in this country, HOWEVER, we will not support other forms of child abuse in the process, poor social work and breaking good families apart on little or no evidence IS IN OUR VIEW ALSO CHILD ABUSE.

To those making false claims, please understand in the end you are damaging the changes you yourself are fighting for. A common complaint by families is that social workers often use your actions to divide and split families to gain the upper hand. If you want what all groups want and that is change then do not repeat the mistakes of the very Department you are pointing the finger at.





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